tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4093117644713466332.post1264448818357009376..comments2023-06-16T09:55:29.319-04:00Comments on Mommy Dourest: When She's GoneIvyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14933355170869547421noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4093117644713466332.post-43023845150518697272013-11-14T15:26:11.690-05:002013-11-14T15:26:11.690-05:00Ivy,while I was reading this,I was so hoping it wa...Ivy,while I was reading this,I was so hoping it was fiction but that was not to be!I could relate to this as I have been there-only difference is that you are able to "see" it-I could not-but after she was no more,the guilt ate me from within-for 3 months I was unable to face myself-let go and I lost sleep,appetite -everything .It was terribly hard for me to accept that I had not been a good daughter and though the world lauded me for being there for both my parents(my Dad followed her after a mere 15 months )in their last few years,but I knew it was not true-I felt like a hypocrite-it still rankles after 4 years and I wish that I could have been more empathetic ,more giving,more understanding but it is too late now.I hope and pray that God gives you the strength to be there for your mom and I will pray that she goes quickly and peacefully-I know how tough it is for a caregiver-it drains you from within-sending you lots of positive vibes and love((hugs))Atreyeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15400190416839538182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4093117644713466332.post-79046320798344544322013-11-14T08:43:31.751-05:002013-11-14T08:43:31.751-05:00Kalpana, thank you for the prayers and the reminde...Kalpana, thank you for the prayers and the reminder that what I'm feeling is normal. :)Ivyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14933355170869547421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4093117644713466332.post-25058769880827414232013-11-14T08:42:14.213-05:002013-11-14T08:42:14.213-05:00When I saw the prompt, the words flowed out of me....When I saw the prompt, the words flowed out of me. But then I had a few minutes of panic before linking up. This is very honest and I know it doesn't put me in the most flattering light. I'd like to be the daughter who does everything without pissing and moaning, but some days it just isn't possible.<br /><br />Thank you so much for the kind words and support!Ivyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14933355170869547421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4093117644713466332.post-54438268191921022592013-11-14T08:38:50.058-05:002013-11-14T08:38:50.058-05:00Oh, Valerie! Thank you so much for the sweet words...Oh, Valerie! Thank you so much for the sweet words. Your compassion and support means more than I can possibly express. If you don't mind, I will gladly take a virtual hug!<br /><br />Thank you for the reassurance, my dear friend. I so needed that! <3Ivyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14933355170869547421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4093117644713466332.post-42824549718953180442013-11-14T08:36:07.978-05:002013-11-14T08:36:07.978-05:00Kymm, that's it exactly. I am overwhelmed, exh...Kymm, that's it exactly. I am overwhelmed, exhausted, frustrated and scared. But this beats the alternative: my mom not being here.<br /><br />Thank you for the heartfelt comment, my friend.Ivyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14933355170869547421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4093117644713466332.post-52113147928545933552013-11-14T08:34:25.309-05:002013-11-14T08:34:25.309-05:00Thank you for the lovely comment, Annabelle!Thank you for the lovely comment, Annabelle!Ivyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14933355170869547421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4093117644713466332.post-58974600709156763702013-11-14T07:12:49.124-05:002013-11-14T07:12:49.124-05:00Thank you, dearest! I really needed to "hear&...Thank you, dearest! I really needed to "hear" that. <br /><br />I'm so glad I'm here for my mom, but I can't lie--this is hard on us both. I'm under qualified and understaffed. But, as the cliché says, I'm taking it day by day. <br /><br />Thank you for the wonderful words of encouragement. XOXOIvyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14933355170869547421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4093117644713466332.post-32374198357959192262013-11-14T06:41:25.315-05:002013-11-14T06:41:25.315-05:00It's tough to admit how difficult and just pla...It's tough to admit how difficult and just plain frustrating this is, especially in a mere 333 words. The role reversal is hard to get used to. Very hard. Ivyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14933355170869547421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4093117644713466332.post-650158480860751822013-11-14T06:34:06.438-05:002013-11-14T06:34:06.438-05:00Thank you so much, MS!Thank you so much, MS!Ivyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14933355170869547421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4093117644713466332.post-54399785747817450372013-11-14T06:33:51.930-05:002013-11-14T06:33:51.930-05:00I love that you read strength in this because this...I love that you read strength in this because this situation has definitely revealed some of my weaknesses. But hopefully I'm getting stronger, better able to handle this for me and my mom. <br /><br />Lance, thank you so much for the thoughtful comment and continued support!Ivyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14933355170869547421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4093117644713466332.post-75369373188526912422013-11-14T06:27:54.032-05:002013-11-14T06:27:54.032-05:00Thank you, Susan! It was painful to write, but I g...Thank you, Susan! It was painful to write, but I guess I needed to get it out.Ivyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14933355170869547421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4093117644713466332.post-31651329436302817022013-11-13T10:41:20.760-05:002013-11-13T10:41:20.760-05:00Pray your mom gets back the strength. This is the ...Pray your mom gets back the strength. This is the period of uncertainty and confusion and it is natural.kalpana solsihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05459797629127380780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4093117644713466332.post-85016576420851358082013-11-13T08:38:43.596-05:002013-11-13T08:38:43.596-05:00This is beautiful and brutal writing, but so hones...This is beautiful and brutal writing, but so honest I think everyone reading will want to jump into the screen and give you strength through hugging. Although there is guilt and sadness the one feeling that will always be there is love. Run with it. Thanks for sharing. Trifectahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16492626287830278024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4093117644713466332.post-13014872584847924692013-11-13T06:57:13.822-05:002013-11-13T06:57:13.822-05:00Kathy, I'm so sorry you've gone through th...Kathy, I'm so sorry you've gone through this twice. I'm sure it was difficult for you, but your parents were so blessed to have you there.Ivyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14933355170869547421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4093117644713466332.post-36409471802758938482013-11-13T06:53:43.873-05:002013-11-13T06:53:43.873-05:00You're so right, Mel. I know my mother hates b...You're so right, Mel. I know my mother hates burdening me but she's also thankful for my help. The smiles are hard to come by some days, but I wouldn't think of not being here for her.Ivyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14933355170869547421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4093117644713466332.post-69136654152037154212013-11-13T06:48:22.582-05:002013-11-13T06:48:22.582-05:00Thank you, Janna! Yes, there is definitely a range...Thank you, Janna! Yes, there is definitely a range of emotions in this situation. Ivyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14933355170869547421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4093117644713466332.post-54967143616456403652013-11-13T06:45:20.683-05:002013-11-13T06:45:20.683-05:00Thank you, TIZ! Coming from such a talented writer...Thank you, TIZ! Coming from such a talented writer, that is quite a compliment. :)Ivyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14933355170869547421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4093117644713466332.post-22936356357219252692013-11-12T21:38:44.746-05:002013-11-12T21:38:44.746-05:00My dear, sweet Ivy. Sometimes I think the grumbli...My dear, sweet Ivy. Sometimes I think the grumbling and secret resentment is part of the process in helping us in letting go of a loved one. I think it's natural, and normal, but I know it doesn't make the resulting guilt any easier to bear. You are in an impossibly hard situation and I wish you were close by. I'd wrap you in a hug and tell you that you are the daughter your mother deserves. You love her. In the end, that's what counts:) (I will keep you next to my heart, my friend.) xxValerie Boersmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08372768206512562126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4093117644713466332.post-78452828836472628862013-11-12T19:10:12.723-05:002013-11-12T19:10:12.723-05:00Such an honest, soulful piece. This is one of the ...Such an honest, soulful piece. This is one of the hardest things to do. When the relief you are striving for means the death of the one you're caring for, there is no good place to be.<br />Peace, and strength, Ivy. And wrap yourself in love. And do this. ({})kymmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18277722091216771412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4093117644713466332.post-54659008960944150832013-11-12T10:51:13.714-05:002013-11-12T10:51:13.714-05:00Such a powerful last line. You shared the terrify...Such a powerful last line. You shared the terrifying combination of mixed emotions so well, thank you for sharing it with us.Annabellehttp://glassoffancy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4093117644713466332.post-72996310375280943462013-11-12T09:37:41.810-05:002013-11-12T09:37:41.810-05:00Oh Ivy.
so honest and this peek inside your daily...Oh Ivy. <br />so honest and this peek inside your daily, in and out of life, is painful for me as your friend to read. I know how hard this must be ...to be patient, to be present, to not have resentment at the heart of it. <br />Any of us would struggle with that emotion. <br /><br />Your last line , you need not worry my friend, you are already the daughter she needs in this moment. <br />Love you Ivy. xo<br />Kirhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17894442143508446312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4093117644713466332.post-35405924812789167912013-11-12T08:25:08.493-05:002013-11-12T08:25:08.493-05:00This is a very honest self-assessment. I wonder if...This is a very honest self-assessment. I wonder if I will be patient with an ailing parent when the time comes.Tara R.https://www.blogger.com/profile/02993625193184914299noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4093117644713466332.post-12640209046594971392013-11-11T23:02:28.268-05:002013-11-11T23:02:28.268-05:00I appreciate all the little details about this car...I appreciate all the little details about this care-taking relationship. Well done, Ivy! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4093117644713466332.post-66869740261583528612013-11-11T21:03:33.904-05:002013-11-11T21:03:33.904-05:00wonderful last line and I love the strength in thi...wonderful last line and I love the strength in this<br /><br />congrats on your silver medal this week, well deservedLancehttp://lancemyblogcanbeatupyourblog.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4093117644713466332.post-60771879888674150132013-11-11T16:30:40.321-05:002013-11-11T16:30:40.321-05:00This truly is painful to read, but beautifully cra...This truly is painful to read, but beautifully craftedSusanhttp://thewizardsword.comnoreply@blogger.com